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Mark_Wallace22-Sep-14 8:45
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Fabio Franco23-Sep-14 2:43
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Mark_Wallace wrote:
If you can't play nice with the other kids, everyone loses -- you, your colleagues, and the company.


I have to agree with every bit of what you said so far. Unfortunately, in our industry (software development in general) soft skills are rare to find, specially having a good political attitude.

I have myself struggled over the years to grow up and learn to deal with things I do not agree with and one of my greatest lessons was to not go cry for the boss. I have made that mistake already and I have also learned that going directly to the person I disagree with rendered much better results.

Most of the time when I would approach the person directly, the results were positive. They would listen to me and even when we could not reach an agreement, our relationship did not deteriorate. And surprisingly, most of the time the relationship improved, they would come to me for advice and even recognize my ideas to upper management.

All in all, I learned that by swallowing my pride, I couldn't go wrong; and eventually it ceased to be difficult to do it. Being humble, being right or wrong (yes, it happens) tends to work on your own benefit.

I never have to say: "I told you so!". With this type of attitude, it becomes unnecessary.

This is one of the things I believe the younger ones need to be better educated about. There should a dedicated class in this area in every college, I wish this could be learned outside the scope of real life experience, not sure how feasible this is.

I heard you mention something about a book you wrote. Care to share an amazon link?

Cheers
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