I don't have a wife, however your situation is very recognizable.
The shower often gets me waked up in the morning after a poor night sleep. I usually go to bed at set times, however when I'm working on a hard problem my brain doesn't stop working. This results in a restless night that doesn't give me the feeling I slept well.
Food does tend to get problematic too, mostly because I eat late when I have a deadline.
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When I worked over 80 hour weeks I only slept 4 or 5 hours a night but to counter act being sleepy I would get the blood flowing by hitting the treadmill pretty hard for 30 minutes every morning. I found this way more effective than caffeine. As for eating, since I was up more hours in the day I had like 5 or 6 meals although I did not spend much time preparing my meals (microwave, take out ...)
I have to agree on the treadmill. I did a 3 mile run yesterday early morning pavement, and then an hour in the afternoon on the treadmill and it definitely helped my focus and concentration. Great way to get motivated and stay healthy.
You can always tell when i'm coming up on a deadline. My kitchen gets cleaned, vast amounts of cooking is done, i'll shave, go out drinking with friends and family, spend lots of quality time with the wife, repair minor damage to household appliances, finish long-delayed household projects, paint, read, release a new version of CPhog, befriend the neighbors, scrub the pipes, re-arrange closets, retouch photos, write long detailed rants about what's wrong with these lazy kids today...
In short, i get more done before a deadline than at any other time. But rarely ever actually meet deadlines.
So, in a way, you use everything that other people would neglect as your distraction from actually meeting the deadline? haha...That's the best way to do it! And it makes sense too...get everything else that's been lingering around distracting you done and out of the way, so you can concentrate on the deadline!
Other projects get shuffled such that in one job I would find out which projects were truly important and which ones could be dropped all together. Eating off my keyboard has lead to purchasing a new one (to lazy to clean). Girlfriend says she understands. Note I have not had long periods of extra hours for some time now.
I wanted to add that but my first vote said there was a problem and the second did not have sleep. I really can not believe this choice is not on the list. I mean if you work long hours (80+) hours a week it is highly likely that you will not be getting 8 hours / day sleeping...
Cleaning (house, clothes, bathroom)
The actual problem you are meant to be working on
Relations with friends and family
Relations with wife / husband / significant other
Basic personal hygiene
Cleaning (one"s self) all of options above!
maybe would be better to use checkbox instead of radiobutton