I have solved my question.
firstly i give binding property for
DataGridCheckBoxColumn
later i used datatrigger for Datagridtemplatecolumn
<DataTrigger Binding="{Binding Path=GelenCagriMi}" Value="True">
<pre> <DataGridTemplateColumn>
<DataGridTemplateColumn.CellTemplate>
<DataTemplate>
<Rectangle HorizontalAlignment="Center" Height="12" Margin="0" VerticalAlignment="Center" Width="12">
<Rectangle.Style>
<Style TargetType="{x:Type Rectangle}" >
<Setter Property="OpacityMask">
<Setter.Value>
<VisualBrush Stretch="Fill" Visual="{StaticResource appbar_arrow_up}" />
</Setter.Value>
</Setter>
<Setter Property="Fill" Value="LightGreen"/>
<Style.Triggers>
<DataTrigger Binding="{Binding Path=GelenCagriMi}" Value="True">
<Setter Property="OpacityMask">
<Setter.Value>
<VisualBrush Stretch="Fill" Visual="{StaticResource appbar_arrow_down}" />
</Setter.Value>
</Setter>
<Setter Property="Fill" Value="LightSkyBlue"/>
</DataTrigger>
</Style.Triggers>
</Style>
</Rectangle.Style>
</Rectangle>
</DataTemplate>
</DataGridTemplateColumn.CellTemplate>
</DataGridTemplateColumn>
<DataGridCheckBoxColumn Header="Çağrı Türü" x:Name="GELENCAGRIMI" Binding="{Binding Path=GelenCagriMi}" >
</DataGridCheckBoxColumn>