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GeneralRe: Do You Get Along ? Pin
W Balboos, GHB19-Nov-18 3:47
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W Balboos, GHB19-Nov-18 1:51
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nightsoul9419-Nov-18 5:48
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First I must mention, why would you not include the Chronic Idiots? The Chronic Idiots are the first, and most important not to get along with. Granted that goes without saying, but now you have offended them. Smile | :)

I think this depends heavily on definitions, particularly how you define getting along. If getting along with people means being nice to them and treating them fairly as possible, than I really do believe that you should try to get along with everyone. If it means not tolerating their crap, calling them out when needed and not letting them slack off, than yeah you won't be getting along with everyone.

My current job aside, I usually like everybody I work with, and usually develop several lasting friendships at each job. There are always people who, for one reason or another, I actively avoid but when I have worked in a good job they are usually limited. If I was forced to deal with them, I would be as patient as possible with them, but it would be like nails grinding on a chalkboard the whole time. In general, would be highly tiring and trying all at once and I would not like doing it often.

My current job, however, is very different. I highly dislike my boss. He was a medium level programmer, with a fair amount of skill, promoted to management who never should have been. He is a horrible leader, a horrible manager and a worse boss. In his current position he quite literally has no redeeming qualities. He has started to stack the department with only people he likes and has known in other jobs, passes all the good assignments to them, and has begun to develop a cult of personality following him that neither challenges his bad decisions, or would be willing to even speak up. And the list of really bad decisions, well, that list is gigantic and some of those have cost a significant amount of money lost. Currently, I don't get along with him or anybody he has brought along.

That being said an obvious question comes to mind, why would I continue to work there. A long story short, I usually decide to change jobs every three to five years depending on projects, future and a lot of other factors. As an example, I had one job that the project manager left right after a big project and for the next 9 months we couldn't hold a project manager and had no work. I get really bored with nothing to do, even though I was still getting paid. I have never had a truly horrible boss till my current one though, and I was considering finding other work his first week, but I wanted to make sure it wasn't me that was the problem. It could be I had the personality issue so I stuck with it until currently, I am hunting for work now, but I wanted to make sure I wasn't the one that my coworkers couldn't get along with. Turns out it is him and his people. The others in the department that were there before him, except one, are all looking for work. In this current situation, I have to literally not talk because he will berate me and shoot every idea down. I find that I have absolutely no reason to get along with anyone. I usually keep my mouth shut, but I find if somebody floats a truly idiotic idea, I am much more likely to hammer it and expose the idiocy.
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