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Simple solutions are:
Just use their first name
Dr/Prof (overstating their qualifications/flattery never does any harm!)
Lady/Highness - good for grovelling/being sarcastic
However we really need a modern, polite term to address a person of any gender/martial status with or without a name. Bit like the old 'Dear Sir'
Perhaps
Dear Hum (as in Human)
Dear Sap (as in Homo Sapiens and has the benefit of annoying any Neanderthals still around)
or my favourite
Dear XYX - covers nearly everyone
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Thanks for this.
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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You seem to have left out Miss.
Also, for a while they were working with Mx., which would also encompass Mr. so it wouldn't be gender specific.*
How ironic that, in current times, it's now become quite the converse - people insisting upon gender titles - even if it's one they change on a daily basis, or as the mood strikes them.
Oh Brave New World !
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Your asking this question in the Lounge....
There is about a 0.00000001% chance that your going to get anything anywhere near serious (And Iv'e probably just skewed those odds with this reply)
Your not going to get a serious answer in here, not because of any offensiveness, but simply because it's the lounge.
Think of this place like the "School Playground of Code Project", what happens here, stays here, and answering serious questions is not a concept easily understood.
EDIT
[DANG] - I retract my words.... I didn't notice there was a second page!!! 
I'm impressed, go "The Lounge"!!!
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It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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Peter Shaw wrote: Think of this place like the "School Playground of Code Project"
That explains all the running around with scissors and matches... 
Common sense is admitting there is cause and effect and that you can exert some control over what you understand.
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YUP
Interesting fact, I'm lead to believe it was me that started all that scissors and matches stuff in the first place 
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Peter Shaw wrote: , I'm lead to believe it was me that started all that scissors and matches stuff in the first place
Nah, crazy antics have been going on forever around here. Unless you are referencing something else?
Edit, wow, I just looked, I have been floating in and out of CP for over 14yrs now. Sheesh.
Common sense is admitting there is cause and effect and that you can exert some control over what you understand.
modified 27-Mar-18 18:49pm.
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ha ha, no not at all....
I just recall someone mentioning something similar once over, and that it was my fault.
I get told all sorts of things are my fault, I just usually grin and walk away, like water of a ducks back so to speak.
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If you are replying to an email/letter use the name the person signed off on the email to you.
If it is Mrs. Jane Doe then use that.
If it is Ms. Jane Doe then use that.
If it is Jane Doe then use that.
BTW you worry far too much. As long as you don't open with "Hey Bitch!" you are probably OK.
"Newer" is NOT automatically better, only Different. (And more complex and bug ridden when it comes to all of the "boutique" languages / frameworks out there)
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Thank you for this. I try to avoid the one you mentioned in the last sentence
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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Dear AppropriateGenderPronoun,
Dear Ms. X,
or, just drop it:
Dear Jane,
or, title it:
Dear CEO Jane xxx,
but NEVER EVER:
Dear Leader,
that is exclusively reserved for NK...
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Thanks 
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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Serious boring answer: always use "Ms" in business communication, even for a woman you know is married. Marital status is irrelevant in business so it's best to not even make the distinction.
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I simply stopped using any form of salutation, especially because official ranks were involved, and those often changed. If I had to for a known female, however, I would use Ms.
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Thank you very much.
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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0x01AA wrote: This is no joke question!
As if this will stop the silly responses.
If you think 'goto' is evil, try writing an Assembly program without JMP.
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I think most of the answers are quite ok
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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Now to add to your worries: 
If you start with "Dear Sir/Madam", make sure you sign off with, "Yours faithfully".
If you start with their name, sign off with "Yours sincerely".
Yours faithfully or Yours sincerely?[^]
"These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined."
- Homer
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I think I will go with "to whom it may concern"
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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How about "Darling Fascist Bully-Boy[^]"?
"These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined."
- Homer
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You could use Dear Madam.
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I always use Ms. I don't differentiate the treatment of men depending on if they are married or not, so I do the same with women. In Spain, to call the equivalent to Mrs to a woman is something quite old-fashioned -usually it comes from seniors- and considered offensive. But could be acceptable for a teenager.
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Dear baby.
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Traditionally (in American English, at least), "Mrs." implies married, and "Miss" implies unmarried. "Ms." (pronounced more like "Mizz") avoids that distinction. It is an appropriate professional address for a female regardless of marital status. Marital status is irrelevant.
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Unfortunately, there's no gender-neutral address, which is a problem when one can't tell from the name whether someone is a "Mr." or a "Ms." -- e.g., native English speakers trying to decode Chinese or Indian names. In those cases, I usually just avoid the "Mr." or "Ms." pronoun and simply use the person's full name. "Dear <insert full name here>, ..."
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