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Reasonable supposition. Head was turned towards me when the blurted out the greeting. Looked me in the face, turned their head forward - never breaking their pace.
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W∴ Balboos wrote: Looked me in the face
Oh, I see.
Maybe they had one of those silly earpieces and were actually on their cell phone. 
There are two kinds of people in the world: those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.
There are only 10 types of people in the world, those who understand binary and those who don't.
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W∴ Balboos wrote: Looked me in the face, turned their head forward - never breaking their pace.
Efficient salutations for workplace create high levels of productivity.
No need to await answer.
You are at work so your only possible answer is "fine".
If you are on the positive side of "fine" then you are happy and obviously need more soul-crushing work to do.
If you are on the negative side of "fine" then you need to be fired immediately since you're a detriment to the workplace.
All of this is Office Efficiencies.
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Oh I get it now. I was about to say... nothing wrong with saying hello to people. But it sounds like that person was just being nosy to you while passing by along the way to someone else. That's annoying and disrespectful IMO. But it's also the office world. Most people really have no idea or simply don't care enough about how they treat others in the office world. It's not intentional on that person's part... it's just done out of ignorance and lack of self awareness of one's own actions.
Jeremy Falcon
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I pictured it more as a mindless custom encouraged by local habits.
Mindless, and for those not like-mind-less, inconsiderate on a good day.
I don't want to hear the snore or phart, either.
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Still not clear on if he/she was saying hello to you or not. But, if he/she wasn't saying it to you... then yeah I agree.
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 I absolutely hate meaningless pleasantries and generally don't initiate or respond to them. I find that it's getting more difficult to be anti-social these days...not my choice.
"Go forth into the source" - Neal Morse
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I've noticed this as well from people where I work and realized that none of them really care. At one point I actually did start saying that I had a horrible day and so on. Only a few would ask about details and then I'd have to explain why I said it. Now I usually respond with a "I'm doing pretty well, how about you?" The question seems to cause people to pause and actually force them to reply.
If I don't really want to know or don't have time for a conversation, I usually just pass by someone I know with a friendly "Hi Bob!" and keep going. If I am curious or do have time, it would be more "Hi Bob, how are you today?" What I say and how I say it are important to what I'm after.
That is true about NY'ers though, the wife jokes about when she moved and went to a deli in the south. They actually asked her what she was planning to do with the ham and cheese she was buying! She was very confused at first as in NYC she would expect to order, get said order, pay, and get out. Transaction completed, don't waste time.
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... Tuesday ... and we're already disfunctional!
(I know you're not a hater ...)
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RedDk wrote: ... Tuesday ... and we're already disfunctional!
From my point of view, it's already Tuesday and I'm finally dysfunctional.
RedDk wrote: (I know you're not a hater ...)
Don't you hate it when people post things like that?*
* obligatory answer.
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I guess I've never been so helpful. So get out your 64-bit Meshlab and add a texture/material to some Photoshop 3D export.
Ok, that doesn't work?
(fiddle ... fiddle ... fiddle ...)
Find something that does.
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W∴ Balboos wrote: RedDk wrote: (I know you're not a hater ...)
Don't you hate it when people post things like that?*
I hate hating so much that it makes me hate hating even more to the point that I put on a hat of hate which calms my hate.
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Was he/she saying hello to you or the other person?
Jeremy Falcon
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Head turned toward me as they walked forward toward their destination person. Head turned away before I could answer - obviously they didn't give a sh*t about the answer and perhaps didn't even know their lips were flapping and making distracting sounds.
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Well, assuming he was saying hello to you... this may come as a shock, but not everyone hates the world. 
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: this may come as a shock, but not everyone hates the world
Only the ignorant . . . and the dead.
And I hate happy-face emojis, too!
Wake up and smell the flowers bus exhaust.
Grumble.
Grumble.
Grumble.
Grumble.
Grumble.
Grumble.
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What are those things? Miniature endplate potentials?
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I get it though. If you're trying to concentrate it can be unnerving to be distracted. I do that too... when we need focus then quiet is important.
Jeremy Falcon
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Reminds me of when we went to California to see Disneyland / Sea world etc. One of the things that really got up the missus nose was that Americians would just shove you out of their way (she's quite small, but nimble), saying a very fake "sorry" at the same time.
We were on our way home from a trip to UK where she had just played hockey for New Zealand, and as such, she knows how to trip people up without it looking obvious. Anyhow, she started muttering about the next person who shoved her out of the way, would get it. I managed to convince her not to do it until some big tall american shoved her out of the way with a bit too much force and the customary fake "sorry". He ended up on his face and bleeding, but was very apolegetic as he thought it was all his fault, this time for once, genuine.
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That's why I keep roughly 15,000,000 feet between me and California.
I will admit, however, that they do have bikini-wearing roller skaters, most of whom are female.
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Well, I have mixed feelings about what you said.
First, I am from Brazil, but worked in NY for around two years, going back and forth from Brazil to US in this time period. What I felt was that NYers in general were much "colder" than people in Brazil. But that's ok, different cultures, different way people act towards each other.
I thought though that people sometimes were not polite. Like meeting in the elevator hall Brazilians and myself usually say a simple "Good Morning" greeting. I rarely saw anyone there that would actually do that besides myself and I often wouldn't hear a good morning back.
But, on the other hand, what I don't like about Brazil that I have to force myself into this false interest in someone else's life, otherwise I am seen as unfriendly compared to others here. I hate to demonstrate false interest and I had to start doing it in order to actually get collaboration from others. In that sense I wish Brazil was more like NY, I'd be thankful for that.
In the end I go through the same thing you do, having to hear someone ask how I am and don't even wait for my reply or having a quick chit chat I don't want to have with people I don't care about and I know that don't care about me.
To alcohol! The cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems - Homer Simpson
Our heads are round so our thoughts can change direction - Francis Picabia
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Another reason you may have found NY'ers seeming cold is the cultural comfort distance. Each culture has a comfort distance for interaction when speaking/family/friends/business/strangers/not-speaking.
Latin American and Asian countries, for example, often have a much closer comfort distance than US (and largest, apparently, UK).
Thus, at a subconscious level, when in an environment where the distance differs significantly, there can be unintended signals. One steps back (to make their space), giving the impression they're unfriendly, whilst the other moves in (giving the impression of pushy). No conscious intentions. I actually learned to control the impulse - let the other person control the distance. Turns out to be much easier to get friendly.
So, along with the verbal customs (about which I bitch), there's the subconscious "we" and "not we" going on.
Bon Dia -
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W∴ Balboos wrote: cultural comfort distance.
Nice definition, I actually felt that and adapted through observation (like you said, I started to let the other person control the distance). So, after some time I felt at home.
W∴ Balboos wrote: So, along with the verbal customs (about which I bitch), there's the subconscious "we" and "not we" going on.
Yeah, I hate that too, it's one of the things I liked about NY, had to deal with that a lot less.
On another matter though, I found one curious thing that is fundamentally different from Brazil: I usually observed that groups were easily distinguishable. I would see asians hanging with asians, indians hanging with indians, americans with americans (sometimes racial separation within this group). I found it hard to establish a friendship relationship with americans, so most friends I made were actually europeans (not from GB) and latin americans (another distinguished group) which I believe, now that you said it, matched the cultural comfort distance.
Bom dia
To alcohol! The cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems - Homer Simpson
Our heads are round so our thoughts can change direction - Francis Picabia
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Exactly!
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