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Garth J Lancaster wrote: start off as friends, be a nice guy, you'll get there in the end to see them getting with lots of guys, but never you
Sounds about right now 
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Hi, that's great you made the attempt !
«There is a spectrum, from "clearly desirable behaviour," to "possibly dodgy behavior that still makes some sense," to "clearly undesirable behavior." We try to make the latter into warnings or, better, errors. But stuff that is in the middle category you don’t want to restrict unless there is a clear way to work around it.» Eric Lippert, May 14, 2008
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So you're officially a PUA now. That's awesome! 
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I had to google PUA
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I once read about PUA in the past years. It's funny, but sometimes it works
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Well done!
The worst it can happen is what happened so, from now on you have no excuses... this is like all the other things in life... more practice gives better results... 
Drinking is not a safe option... you know what is said: "that girl is n beers ugly" so it is better to be sober when trying it... the worst part of it is that if you make a BIG mistake then you won't have excuses... 
That said, ![Green Alien | [Alien]](https://www.codeproject.com/script/Forums/Images/alien.gif) and all of us feel so proud of you now... 
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Joan Murt wrote: The worst it can happen is what happened so, from now on you have no excuses...
The song 'give me three steps' just popped into my head 
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Ah don't lean on me man, cause you can't afford the ticket
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Sander Rossel wrote: Really very cute girl.
As crass/male chauvinist as this sounds, the more you practice, the easier it gets. So practice. Not every girl needs to be a potential girlfriend or "really very cute", it's fun just to hang out with people of the opposite sex. The less hormones charge to asking someone out for a lunch date, concert, movie, whatever, the easier it gets for well, those "charged" moments.
Marc
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I guess I'll try a few more times. Maybe. Someday 
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Well done; "wie niet waagt, blijft maagd" 
Sander Rossel wrote: I've been planning it for weeks, even trying to ask her out a few times, but failed due to completely freaking out and only being able to say the mandatory
Because you're afraid of asking a big question, and the possible outcome - start with smalltalk. Makes it a lot easier 
Bastard Programmer from Hell 
If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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Why do you think I never made smalltalk? 
There's really just one kind of smalltalk[^] I see myself becoming proficient in
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Sander Rossel wrote: Why do you think I never made smalltalk?
"Receipt please. Bye." 
Bastard Programmer from Hell
If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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That's the bare minimum.
One of the girls there sometimes makes smalltalk.
"It's really busy today." That's just a statement and I have no idea how I should answer that
I think the whole conversation last week went something like this:
She: "It's really busy today."
Me: "It happens."
She: "Yeah, more busy than usual."
Me: "Strange, with such good weather you'd think people do other things than groceries." (yes, the weather! ultimate (and horrible) smalltalk topic)
She: "The weather isn't that good. Too much wind."
Me: "Alright, then I don't know why it's so busy."
She: "Usually we'd be with three cashiers, but there's only two today."
Me: "Vacation?"
She: "No the third is sick at home."
Me: "Well, good luck with that. Bye."
She: "Bye."
Horrible, just shut up already
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Sander Rossel wrote: I have no idea how I should answer that
Open questions are preferred. See it as gathering specs
Sander Rossel wrote: Horrible, just shut up already
That doesn't matter, some girls would think that is cute.
Bastard Programmer from Hell
If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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The worst they can do is say "yes".
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At least you'll get a second chance to fail 
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It's a numbers game - keep going, after a while it won't bother you if you get a no.
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R. Giskard Reventlov wrote: after a while it won't bother you if you get a no.
Because you're dead inside?
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No, because you get laid a lot and no longer care if one says no. The next one will say yes. 
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Well, I did finally get some ass last night! I grabbed through the toilet paper... 
Wasn't there a post about the dangers of toilet paper here not long ago?
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From the view of a lot of years down the track, you are too focused on the big question, asking her out. As others have suggested, try small talk, anything will do, ask her about something, as long as it is not offensive the subject does not matter. Just like you coding it takes PRACTICE.
The dead inside comment shows you are way too sensitive and have no experience with even talking to the lovely creatures. Instead of having a goal of asking them out, don't have a goal at all, just put yourself in a position where you can talk to them, probably not a check out isle where she is focused on work.
Never underestimate the power of human stupidity
RAH
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Mycroft Holmes wrote: have no experience with even talking to the lovely creatures
Some of my good friends are really very hot chicks Who, unfortunately, aren't into me for anything more than just friendship
I just don't talk well to strangers, be they girls or guys. Small talk is just the worst. Unless they talk to me first, in that case I'm quite alright (well, sometimes).
Mycroft Holmes wrote: probably not a check out isle where she is focused on work
Yeah, it's just that that's her work and I never see her outside work 
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Don't tell no one, but I'm 44, married + 4, but never ever asked a girl out...
Skipper: We'll fix it.
Alex: Fix it? How you gonna fix this?
Skipper: Grit, spit and a whole lotta duct tape.
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Kornfeld Eliyahu Peter wrote: Don't tell no one
My lips are sealed
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