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Bob Wambach12-Feb-14 1:45
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Kirk 1038982112-Feb-14 4:20
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I usually work on the communication problem. I come straight out and tell them we are not communicating, and we have to get through that problem to nurture a long-term relationship.

I also like to identify if the person is a Visual, Kinesthetic, or Auditory person (how they process information). This helps me to pick the right example.

Then, I stop talking about software. I use the building analogy. Here is the analogy I use to start the conversation.

Lets assume you have a private lot in the woods. You come to me, and tell me you want a cabin that looks like X (some photo), with 3 bedroom, etc.

I come back, show you the blueprints. You ask "Where is the deck?" What about the A/C?
I come back, show you the updates, You say "Why is the deck so small, we will have a terrible view of the lake!"

Now imagine that I never showed you the blueprints, and I just built the entire thing! What would the cost be of changing those things?

So, when I ask you to walk me through a diagram, and to work through a screen, or the process. Please understand that I am trying to make sure that we both have the SAME vision for what I am building.

Once you know I can describe this place to anyone and you would not change the description, it is time to start building.

And honestly, the final level of detail to me is:
You walk in to the cabin, you have a bag in your left hand, keys in your right hand. The door opens to the left. Close your eyes and reach for the light switch. Ah, with your elbow... Perfect, we will use the fancy touch toggle light switches. (Oh, you want a motion sensor to turn the light on if the door opens. Great idea).

anyways, I have found it is much much easier to explain the design process using ANYTHING BUT software. People think it is "soft" (no idea where they get that idea), and that makes it EASY to change.

When they realize you are building something that has to be designed, and having it work correctly is not a LUCKY ACCIDENT, suddenly, they realize that the conversations are what is MOST important at this stage...

Also, it might help to find his motivation for his current thought process. He may have had a failed project where they did a LOT of analysis so it triggers a "don't go there" response for him at a subconscious level.

HTH
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