add command argument to delete button like below..
CommandArgument='<%# Container.DataItemIndex%>'
it will assign your row index to command argument.
Access this row index in row command event & try something like this..
protected void GridView_RowCommand(object sender, GridViewCommandEventArgs e)
{
if (e.CommandName == "Delete")
{
int index = e.CommandArgument;
GridViewRow deletedRow= MyGridView.Rows[index];
deletedRow.BackColor= Color.Red;
}
}