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A couple score years ago, I had the same situation with graduate schools.
Penn State accepted me and I accepted. Then Northwestern accepted me. A far better option in the field.
My research advisor/mentor, who even had ties to Penn State, when asked what to do said "Northwestern - no question". And pointed out I really didn't owe anything to either.
I took his advise - but such decisions still cause no small discomfort.
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Any way works. I accepted A and I'm really repenting a lot.
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"the offer would expire." Not sure I would have accepted an offer that had an expiration date in the first place. Sounds unprofessional and disrespectful to me.
Just as consumers are advised to walk away from deals that are "only good today".
And you would wind up working with a bunch of colleagues who had also fallen for the same bad sales technique.
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Well, the company can't wait around forever for someone to accept an offer, especially if it's an urgent open position.
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Agreed, there must be some reasonable timeframe for an applicant to accept or decline an offer.
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A elephanting men!
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<italic>Stuck in a dysfunctional matrix from which I must escape...
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“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
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Use the example letter musefan posted and take the job with Company B. Since Company A switched jobs and compensation on you, it sounds like they didn't really want you anyway, but thought you might be desperate enough to take whatever they offered. Even their counter offer sounds like they are not terribly interested in having you work for them. I can't imagine that would have been a good working relationship anyway.
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I don't think they thought I was desperate. They knew I was talking with other companies, and had at least one offer. I think at least a good part of it was corporate limitations since it's such a large company. I mean I think they tried their best offer because they knew I wasn't desperate.
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My mistake, I read the counter offer story and thought it was part of your saga, which indicated the second company wasn't as interested and they seemed.. but that's not your dilemma.
Well, Company A did their best, but it sounds like someone you'd rather work for made a better offer. My advice still stands, accept the offer from Company B and respectfully bow out from Company A.
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Company A didn't happen to be Amazon, is it?
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No way - I only got my G.E.D and then I dropped out of community college.
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I've found that a carefully worded hand-written note usually does the trick.
Don't forget to include the phrase, "IT SUCKS TO BE YOU! LMFAO", at the end.
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Just be direct and honest. Stuff happens and as an employer myself I would want to know ASAP so I can get back to other candidates who I may have passed over in favour of you. Maybe they still have a chance.
cheers
Chris Maunder
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Chris Maunder wrote: Just be direct and honest. Stuff happens and as an employer myself I would want to know ASAP so I can get back to other candidates who I may have passed over in favour of you. Maybe they still have a chance.
I haven't heard back on the Office Alcoholic position I applied for.
Michael Martin
Australia
"I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible."
- Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004
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And here I was thinking you weren't showing up to work because you were too busy at the pub.
Don't even try and expense that off as "research"
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Chris Maunder
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Chris Maunder wrote: And here I was thinking you weren't showing up to work because you were too busy at the pub.
Don't even try and expense that off as "research"
But I'm drinking lots of different things. That's experimentation and research right there.
Michael Martin
Australia
"I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible."
- Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004
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Michael Martin wrote: But I'm drinking lots of different things
FTFY
cheers
Chris Maunder
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...some family trouble...u have to do something else...hope ya understand tank u
Caveat Emptor.
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Take the better offer. Just tell the first "Never mind."
Sheesh. You think they lose sleep over it?
You think they'll even remember your name in two days?
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If the offer from Company B is the one that right for you and your family, then just be honest and say you've had a better offer. No debate, no discussion, just move along. I wouldn't give it a second thought, but that's just me.
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Some say this is unprofessional. I don't think so. It's a dog-eat-dog business world. Most companies have little regard for your convenience when it comes to their needs. If some would sacrifice a higher standard of living and level of happiness to stick with the original offer out of moral obligation, good for them, they are at piece with their conscience. Hopefully, the company would reciprocate such consideration, but this is unlikely.
Anyway, if Company A wanted you bad enough, they could make a better offer.
Just give Company A the truth. The truth will set you free.
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I once had 2 offers at the same time from A & B. I chose A, gave B a chance to barter but they did not. I then started working for A for a month, then B calls me back and wants to offer more money and pleads with me to leave A.
At this point, A had already bought me a laptop, and international plane tickets to attend training.
So I had to tell B, sorry, you took too long.
Company B actually closed shop 3 or 4 years later and I'm still at A. Probably just luck, but I'm going to call it good karma... LOL.
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NEVER, EVER, EVER reconsider. Especially from a company that has already reneged on their original offer.
NEVER, EVER, EVER reconsider.
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Send me 10 bucks through paypal, and i'll write one formal letter to company A for you. Or you can just call company A, talk to the guy in charge as politely as possible about your situation, and your life continues with company B.
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Hi All,
Bob is dressed as a Ghost, He would be able to wander around with a disguise today kinda like ET!
Makes you wonder...
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