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So having a teen daughter who spends most of the free time (after doing school work and watching Netflix ) in smartphone, what should be the best approach regarding watching her activity
1. Asking Mrs to handle it?
2. Ask her to voluntary show the activity?
3. checking the phone on the sly?
Her iTunes ,spotify account is linked to my Credit card so I know she is not doing any useless purchase.
She has two Insta, tik tok, snap account which is private as well public
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Is trusting her not an option?
"Five fruits and vegetables a day? What a joke!
Personally, after the third watermelon, I'm full."
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phil.o wrote: Is trusting her not an option? Have you ever raised kids before?
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As the Russians say: Trust, but verify.
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Yes.
I'm not saying educating a teenager is never problematic. I'm just questionning whether systematically infantilizing them is a good solution in the long term.
"Five fruits and vegetables a day? What a joke!
Personally, after the third watermelon, I'm full."
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phil.o wrote: systematically infantilizing them is a good solution in the long term. No it's not, nor did I see that suggested anywhere. Maybe I read it differently than you.
Social Media - A platform that makes it easier for the crazies to find each other.
Everyone is born right handed. Only the strongest overcome it.
Fight for left-handed rights and hand equality.
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Whether the teen is treated as a child is entirely dependent on the choices the teen makes. The parent is not "infantilizing" them - the teen makes that choice. It is much cheaper for a person to learn consequences as a teen at home with parents than as an adult in prison with adults who really do not care. Learning self-control and making wise decisions are the most important things a teen will learn.
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Lousy argument to try and justify the "not trusting"; and in some cases, verifying is illegal.
..but then again, it seems to work for China
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Eddy Vluggen wrote: Lousy argument to try and justify the "not trusting"; Don't read more than I wrote. I never said not trusting your kid. That would also be bad parenting.
Social Media - A platform that makes it easier for the crazies to find each other.
Everyone is born right handed. Only the strongest overcome it.
Fight for left-handed rights and hand equality.
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ZurdoDev wrote: Don't read more than I wrote. I never said not trusting your kid. That would also be bad parenting. You implied that those who have raised kids know "better". Might have been a jest, but was not recognizable as one and people reading may not take it as such.
So no, not reading anything more than you wrote. If you don't trust your kid, limit their access. Same rules apply on your bosses network btw.
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"If you just follow the bacon Eddy, wherever it leads you, then you won't have to think about politics." -- Some Bell.
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Eddy Vluggen wrote: You implied that those who have raised kids know "better". Yes, we know better. You can't just trust your kids and leave it at that. That's being a lazy parent. Of course you need to build trust with your kids but not at the expense of not parenting anymore.
So, yes, you did read into it something I didn't write. Not every post is black or white, there can be in-between.
Social Media - A platform that makes it easier for the crazies to find each other.
Everyone is born right handed. Only the strongest overcome it.
Fight for left-handed rights and hand equality.
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ZurdoDev wrote: So, yes, you did read into it something I didn't write. Not every post is black or white, there can be in-between. You did not post it that way; the way it is formulated, it implies, whether you did so intentionally or not, and it does whether you like it or not.
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"If you just follow the bacon Eddy, wherever it leads you, then you won't have to think about politics." -- Some Bell.
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Eddy, you are one stubborn old fool. Can't admit when you are wrong.
Implication is in the eye of the beholder.
Social Media - A platform that makes it easier for the crazies to find each other.
Everyone is born right handed. Only the strongest overcome it.
Fight for left-handed rights and hand equality.
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ZurdoDev wrote: Can't admit when you are wrong. I can, and would, when I am.
ZurdoDev wrote: Implication is in the eye of the beholder. No, in the use of language.
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he's just trolling you.
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Slacker007 wrote: he's just trolling you. You could be right, but I've seen enough of Eddy's posts to know that he's too arrogant to think he might have misunderstood something. The guy never makes a mistake.
Social Media - A platform that makes it easier for the crazies to find each other.
Everyone is born right handed. Only the strongest overcome it.
Fight for left-handed rights and hand equality.
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Eddy is an a**hole. simple as that.
It's much easier to enjoy the favor of both friend and foe, and not give a damn who's who. -- Lon Milo DuQuette
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I see you've never used tiktok
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Maybe the best way would be to respect her privacy?
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Clearly not a parent.
Social Media - A platform that makes it easier for the crazies to find each other.
Everyone is born right handed. Only the strongest overcome it.
Fight for left-handed rights and hand equality.
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exactly.
It's much easier to enjoy the favor of both friend and foe, and not give a damn who's who. -- Lon Milo DuQuette
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So tell me, why would a parent spy on their kids?
Don't you trust them?
Are you worried?
Spying on people usually tends to make them angry or annoyed at the least.
Teens really don't need more of that.
Instead, they like to feel understood and trusted.
Educate them and let them know you're their and you won't be angry.
Kids need to make mistakes.
And if you're only spying you won't even prevent them from making mistakes, you'll only see the fact afterwards.
If you did this to literally anyone else they'd sue you and you'd get a restraining order (and a fine and possibly jail time), so why is it okay to do to your kids?
For the record, I don't know any parent who did this and all their kids turned out fine.
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Until the teen reaches 18 years old, they are a child and you, the parent, are legally responsible for what they do. They have no right to privacy where parents are concerned. It is the job of the parent to know what their kid is doing and in doing so, teach them right from wrong and protect them. Once they are adults, then they are responsible for themselves. If the parent did not raise and train them how to be responsible adults, they won't magically become so at 18.
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