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Before cell phones, teen girls would be on the phone non-stop at that point. At least then the risks were limited to slow moving gossip. Sorry, no advice, just observation.
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Pay attention to what any child does on a phone or the internet in general.
A close relative knew that her 13 yo daughter was in a group chat with her friends and was not concerned. However, over time -- in addition to the friends that were known, a few others that they didn't personally know got included.
Then came the plan to meet a 13 yo boy -- that the daughter and her friends knew only through the chat -- at a nearby mall.
Except the 13 yo boy was actually a 28 yo man.
This was discovered when the daughter explained why they were meeting at the mall. The predator was stupid; one of the fathers checked the guy's online profile and discovered his real age. The police were brought in.
Few predators are that stupid -- they produce a false online identity and it can be very difficult to track back. A cop I know was an internet crime investigator -- he mentioned how smart a lot of the criminals are in hiding their identity.
Anyone who says, "Don't you trust your daughter?" is -- at best -- clueless. Children lack the experience and ability to discriminate. Given how easily many adults are taken in by scams and hoaxes, it's illogical to expect more from children.
My suggestions? I did the following with my sons, who are now young adults:
Work with the wife to develop a plan, and present a united front.
Explain the dangers of the internet to your child and find real examples of internet crime with teenage victims, including sexual predators. Make it very real, using examples from your home area (if you can).
[I discovered that explaining why to my sons went a long way in getting compliance, rather than saying "because I said so".]
Explain to your child that you will be tracking and potentially limiting her usage. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't need the phone that badly.
Get added to all of her online services. Explain that if you discover she's using one you're not part of, the phone and computer access go away. Be firm.
Children get mad at their parents for being parents. It's part of the job.
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Tell her she has one chance to change behavior, or you will choose from any or all of the following:
Get a replacement credit card so the old one is invalid.
Turn off WiFi for her phone.
Close her wireless account.
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If she's logging in under your Netflix account, you should be able to select her account and see her watch history. There really isn't too much that is bad on Netflix though.
On the other hand, Snapchat and TikTok are a little different story...
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Here is how I handled mine.
I created an account for myself on the services my kids were using, then I friended and followed their accounts. I did this under the pretext of Dad wanting to be involved, not as Dad is watching you. I also promised, with a smile and a wink, not to post anything that would embarrass them. I made, maybe, one post, then basically left them alone. Over time, they just forgot that Dad was there.
My boys pretty much dropped using most of the social media platforms, aside from following their friends, and liking a post. My daughter still uses hers heavily. She is at an out-of-state university, and in her Junior year. Every once in a while, I will call or text her with a question or joke about a recent post. This usually gets a laugh and a "Oh yeah, I forgot you were following me", followed by a fun conversation.
I have always followed the Proverbs 22:6 way of raising my kids, and showed them the trust that they would make the right choices (with loving, not punitive correction when needed). But I also let them know that Dad was always there, and always interested in them and their lives. I watch the shows and movies they tell me they like (even if I would normally not have any interest in it) so that I can carry an intelligent conversation about it. I play (at least off and on) the games they play on their phones, and always bug them to help me out (I'm really not much of a gamer, and Kingdom Hearts Union Cross is fun, but has way too many parameters for me to keep up on like they do.) I think I am slated to watch the new Sonic the Hedgehog movie soon. I think I am actually looking forward to that one.
I had a rule, that as long as I was paying for their phone, they had to keep the Life360 app installed and functional. I assured them that it was so we could help in emergencies, and promised it would not be used for spying. I also pointed out they they could also see where Mom and Dad were as well. We even had one Middle School Halloween incident when one of my boys went with a group of friends to a neighborhood he was entirely unfamiliar with. He got separated from his group, and none of them had phones. After wandering around for a while, unable to find anything familiar, he called and asked us to pick him up. The app led us strait to him without any delays or hassles. My kids keep the app on their phones to this day. I even got a text from my daughter last month, "Hi Dad, I see you just got home. Can you help me with my laptop?"
In a nutshell:
If they see you as invading their space, they will fight you over it. If they see you as genuinely interested in who they are and just being involved, they will welcome you in.
Money makes the world go round ... but documentation moves the money.
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Have you tried rebooting her to see if you can replicate the behavior?
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Is this a record? No one has been accused of being a Nazi yet.
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Trying to cash in, obviously[^].
I wanted to hate the Watchmen show, I really did.
Damn them for making such a great job of it.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Quote: Storyline
A movie based on the true life story of Bass Reeves... spin off of a TV series?
Or spin off of a true story? (even if the rendition is only true-ish)
if the latter is true the former can't be.
after many otherwise intelligent sounding suggestions that achieved nothing the nice folks at Technet said the only solution was to low level format my hard disk then reinstall my signature. Sadly, this still didn't fix the issue!
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Bass was prominently featured in the Watchmen series, so this looks pretty much like a case of coat-tail hanging.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Know what you mean, It was good, but...
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Townspeople: A black sheriff?!
Blinkin: He's black?
Achoo: And why not? It worked in Blazing Saddles. Based on the mediocre score, I don't believe the same could be said about this one.
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5.2 on IMDB isn't exactly a glowing endorsement.
OTOH - they started making westerns again? I thought that was a genre that was now frowned upon in Hollywood (for some reason unknown to me).
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dandy72 wrote: 5.2 on IMDB isn't exactly a glowing endorsement. It was made in haste with a relatively inexperienced director, so I imagine the script isn't up to much.
I read a couple of articles about the guy, a few years back. He must have been pretty remarkable.
Note that I'd use the word "remarkable" for hollywood, too, but not in quite the same context.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Mark_Wallace wrote: Note that I'd use the word "remarkable" for hollywood, too, but not in quite the same context.
"Remarkable" is a more neutral word than most people make it out to be. I've always taken it to mean that something is likely to have remarks made about it. It doesn't specify that said remarks are either positive or negative...
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I tend to use it in the self-fulfilling way: "I am remarking that this is remarkable because it's remarkable".
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Reportedly profit, but speaks in parables (7)
"The only place where Success comes before Work is in the dictionary." Vidal Sassoon, 1928 - 2012
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Prophet = speaks in parables
sounds like = reportedly
profit
modified 12-Feb-20 5:57am.
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Well done!
You are up for tomorrow...
"The only place where Success comes before Work is in the dictionary." Vidal Sassoon, 1928 - 2012
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Reportedly gains gives too much of the answer away ( just sayin ) - sounds like you are for ( pro ) sudden attacks ( fits ) would have been better . Nice little clue though
"We can't stop here - this is bat country" - Hunter S Thompson - RIP
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Thank you! Picked the word from a list of indicators used in crossword clues... There was a huge list and it was a good fit from those I understood...
"The only place where Success comes before Work is in the dictionary." Vidal Sassoon, 1928 - 2012
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pkfox wrote: Reportedly gains gives too much of the answer away
Hey, he made a promise to give an easy clue and he followed through with that promise! I, for one, commend his commitment...
...although it still took me 5 minutes to solve because I was trying too hard
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1. Jack likes Jill 80% of the time with an intensity of 75%
2. Jill likes Jack 70% of the time with an intensity of 65%
3. When it's a sunny day, 6 times out of ten sunny days: Jack and Jill will go up the Hill
4. When it's overcast, or raining: they go up the Hill 1 out of 15 overcast days.
5. When Jack and Jill are up the Hill:
5a. Jack likes Jill with an intensity of 80~99%
5b. Jill likes Jack with an intensity of 76~90%
6. there is a pattern of quantum fluctuations in Jack's liking Jill based on the extent to which Jill likes Jack.
7. there is a pattern of quantum fluctuations in Jill's liking Jack based on the extent to which Jack likes Jill. So, you have some external factors: weather, location (up/down the Hill).
And, you have some dynamic variation/interdependency in the intensity of "liking." An obvious complexity in the interdependency is the quantization suggested: that's left unspecified here, but let's assume there is some mechanism at play that tends to stabilize (prevent recursion) as their states change (an analogy would be using the Solver in Excel to solve linear and nonlinear optimization problems). fyi: I believe that the act of verbal interaction between people involves this type of status/role/context "negotiation" to establish a conceptual frame; I don't expect you to
Just to give a hint about how you might implement a reciprocal relationship:
public class RelationStates<T>
{
public string Source { get; }
public string Target { get; }
public Dictionary<string, (T, T)> RelStates;
public Func<(T, T), string> GetStateFunc;
public string GetState((T, T) values)
{
return GetStateFunc?.Invoke(values);
}
public RelationStates(string source, string target, Dictionary<string, (T, T)> relstates = null)
{
Source = source;
Target = target;
RelStates = relstates ?? new Dictionary<string, (T, T)>();
}
} Sample usage:
RelationStates<int> JackToJill = new RelationStates<int>(
"Jack", "Jill",
new Dictionary<string, (int, int)>
{
{"indifferent", ( 0,10) },
{"warm", (20,40) },
{"friendly", (50,79) },
{"intimate", (85, 90) },
{"love", (95,100) }
});
JackToJill.GetStateFunc = tuple => { return "not implemented"; };
var state = JackToJill.GetState((23, 24)); I predict your mind already began sketching out some interesting function to do the required mapping of an arbitrary pair of input "like" numbers to one of the "quantized states" Jack can be in vis-a-vis Jill.
For me, of interest is how a mutual dependency can be implemented so that Jack's change of state can be modulated by Jill's change of state, and vice-versa. Throw in the weather, and location for flavoring.
One idea might be to have each state function invoke other functions based on something like: Jack's and Jill's functions exchange measures of state change magnitude with each other ?
Remember: all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
«One day it will have to be officially admitted that what we have christened reality is an even greater illusion than the world of dreams.» Salvador Dali
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BillWoodruff wrote: I predict your mind already began...
My mind ain't doing jack at the moment.
BillWoodruff wrote: JackToJill.GetStateFunc = tuple => { return "not implemented"; }; // yes, this compiles !
This intrigues me... but see above for current state of mind. I may process it at some point today.
Scrap that, I didn't see you have GetStateFunc defined in the class ( I thought the "Func" suffix was some sort of wizardry)... I'm going to stop writing now until I wake up
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musefan wrote: My mind ain't doing jack at the moment. We respect your gender preferences.
musefan wrote: I'm going to stop writing now until I wake up Okay, please note we do treasure shared fantasies
«One day it will have to be officially admitted that what we have christened reality is an even greater illusion than the world of dreams.» Salvador Dali
modified 12-Feb-20 5:24am.
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